Domestic violence: Husband allegedly slaps wife over issue of plate washing


A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.

According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.

She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.

“My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

Priorities in Friendship



“Friendship is about someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” This has been my best definition of friendship overtime, because the bond of all companionship,whether marriage or friendship, is conversation . Conversation is not about proving a point, trying to show you are more knowledgeable or wise. A true conversation is having a conversation to satisfy your impulse to talk and going on a focus journey with the people you are speaking with. Proper communication brings innovations, and if friendship with people is not adding values or new ideas to you. You need to ask yourself, why are we friends? What is the essence of our friendship?

Life is short. Focus on what really matters most, you should change your priorities over time. Not everybody calling Jesus Jesus! would be recognised by Jesus at the end. “Our life is the sum total of all the decisions we make every day, and those decisions are determined by our priorities”, Myles Munroe. To become a great leader in any field of life,you must invest in people and in return they invest in you. _Success without a successor is failure._ If your friends do not hunger alongside you to be a success, talk to them!. If there’s no changes, you need to move on with people who are ready for the next level. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success or failure. And the sooner you realize that, you will do everything in your best to make the right decisions in every unwanted friendship.

[Read: Discover the type of friendship that works for you]

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do nothing to tarnish yourself. We don’t just talk with others but learn from them. Friendship should help push us out of our comfort zones while still providing a safe emotional space for us to be totally ourselves.

Friendship is very essential to our mental health. Spending time with positive friends actually makes us healthy because we are happier when we choose to spend time with happy people. A friend should boost your career, improve your life and lifestyle all round and not destroy it.Having strong friendships can help provide networking and mentoring opportunities for career development and advancement.

Reflecting about friendship is reflecting about who we are, who we want to be and what we want in our lives. The more we show our friends to people and talk about them,who we are and what we want to be begins to reflect. If you realize that a particular relationship doesn’t reflect your values, its okay to say goodbye. We are often afraid to let go of friendship  maybe because of the past memories shared, the thought that they may be useful in the future, or how it looks to others when we have fewer friends.

Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.

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May 2019