Look at the two pictures above. What do you see? The picture of the famous pastor of Christ Embassy and that of famous writer and feminist; Chimamanda Adichie. I’m sure this sparks some images in your mind; Right?
Yesterday, social media went agog and indeed the whole of Nigeria as a lot of people began to attack the famous Christ Embassy pastor. The man of God, in his viral sermon had said that the husband should be regarded as the “MASTER” This meant that he was to be regarded as the Alpha and omega of the home and was not to be questioned.

Furthermore, the pastor went ahead to say that women should stop asking as mothers to their husbands as this creates division. He went further to say that women were not God’s original plan for creation as the world was created for men alone. From the moment these statements were uttered by the pastor in his sermon, it was clear that he had broken the hornets’ nest; the feminists!
Essentially, feminism, is the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. However, in the wake of awareness about feminist rights in Nigeria, have we not missed it?

Now, this is not to say that the man of God was right in saying that God had only men in mind in the creation plan. However, as typical Nigerian feminists, has the ideals of feminism which is laid on the bedrock of equality of the sexes not been replaced by an attempt to subjugate the male gender?

In recent times, in Nigeria, the awareness about feminism and feminist rights has become widespread. This is a very good development as women are now aware of the equal rights that they have as women. However, this is the place the so-called Nigerian feminists, particularly women, has missed it.

Stories and indeed eye witness accounts have been heard and witnessed of women and indeed ladies, who now hide under the pretext of feminism to be disobedient, rude and condescending to their spouses and indeed male partners.

Under the guise of feminism, we have women in Nigeria today who cannot be ‘controlled’ by their husbands. By control here, I mean checking of their various excesses. Indeed, the situation of the misconception of the tenets of feminism by the Nigerian feminists which in this case Is peculiar to women gets saddening when stories are heard of women beating their husbands to a pulp. I stand to ask; is this what true feminism is?

The situation gets worse, when women in the name of feminism now begin to teach children to disregard their fathers. No! That is not what feminism is! Feminism is not gender subjugation.

It is very important to note that this is not a campaign for patriarchy. In fact, it is equally important for men to know that they are not overlords in their homes. The home is meant to be built by the man and the woman. As a man, you cannot force obedience form a woman by becoming an imperial leader. If she obeys you; it will be out of fear and not from love.

It is however pertinent for women and indeed ladies who are budding women and mothers to know that feminism is not in any way gender subjugation. Rather than practice the so-called feminism by becoming disobedient, bossy, uncontrollable and uptight both in the home and in the larger society, one can practice feminism by competing favorably with the masculine gender in the corporate world, in building of better families and indeed Nation building.

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  1. Nice post. I Love this. Ladies need to read this up to learn.

  2. A balanced point of view… A synergy of each gender attributes makes the world a better place to live. Not make overlords and female overlords. Rather, men respect your wives and women, be submissive to your husbands. Chikena!

  3. I feel he is not right to say something like that as a pastor again for that matter

    • Otuyiga Oluwademilade

      “We Do Not Need Misplaced Feminism Nor Mad Display Of Masculinity…” This Is A Brilliant Write Up… A Profound and Masterful Distillation Of The Recent Goings-on In The Society. I Like The Fact That You Gave A Balanced Approach, Weighing The Subject Matters Proportionately And Not Veering To One Side Only. A Must Read

      • Stephen Afolabi

        Thank you very much for this analytical and critical comment. It is well received. The major purpose is to take away the veil of ignorance from people’s faces

    • Olowoyo Oluwatimilehin Dolapo

      Wow. This is indeed a very rich article in that it has bare truths engrossed in it, also, I believe both men and women are to learn from what’s written herein in that the society would never be conducive for existing, competing and developing without the Male and Female synergy. Brilliant article, tobi.

      • Stephen Afolabi

        This is a brilliant reply. In the face of masculine madness and misplaced feminism that is beginning to pervades our society. It is important that we speak up and take away the veil

  4. Nice post
    I love this
    This is nothing but the truth

  5. Nice one, our tradition need to be preserved. We cannot all be boss at the same time. Ladies need to succumb to their spouse, so also men need to be rational while dealing with women.

  6. I agree with you. The motive behind feminism has been infiltrated with bad ideology and misconception of the whole subject

    • Stephen Afolabi

      This is a very thoughtful Reply. I’m grateful that people are thinking right and are not being biased in approach. Wise thoughts once again

  7. Oladipupo Elisha

    From my own opinion, I believe both genders have their rights. But we shouldn’t because of these rights lose the respect we are meant to have for each other, respect is reciprocal and we can only get respected by respecting every one around us, no matter the gender, age, race or whatever might differentiate us from one another. Forcing respect out of a person might just bring fear and hate.

  8. I learnt from this.. Nice post

  9. We have enough problems in the country that needs attention of these leaders/men of God rather than adding more fuel to the raging inferno.

    • Stephen Afolabi

      It is important that our religious leaders serve as a uniting force and not a cause for division. Wise thoughts

  10. God bless you. Been wondering for a while now as to why no one is speaking up on this issue. Ever wonder why there is ‘feminism’ and no ‘masculinism’? But then, what rights have we to talk? The feminists will lash out with aggression and cry that you’re all for the subjugation of women. For me, I stand with God’s view and not man’s

  11. God bless you. Been wondering for a while now as to why no one is speaking up on this issue. Ever wonder why there is ‘feminism’ and no ‘masculinism’? But then, what rights have we to talk? The feminists will lash out with aggression and cry that you’re all for the subjugation of women. For me, I stand with God’s view and not man’s.

    • Stephen Afolabi

      This is a very thoughtful view. The post was meant to puncture the extreme feminist views. Gender subjugation should never be allowed. Let us take that veil away and begin to see things objectively

  12. “We do not need misplaced feminism nor mad display of masculinity. We need a synergy between the two genders to build a better home, a better society and indeed a better nation.”
    That definitely captures the essence of it all.
    Ladies and gentlemen should read up and learn. Both wings are needed for growth and balance.
    Plus, may the eyes of our understanding be enlightened. May we not lose sight of what is important.

    • Stephen Afolabi

      I’m really glad that the females are here to speak about this. It is a welcome development. However, it is pertinent at this point that we use gender synergy to move the society forward

  13. This is a really nice piece. However, I want to point out that feminism is a really broad and complicated term. As you already mentioned, there are various perspectives to it. But I believe that the general idea behind feminism is equal rights between male and female in the work place, homes, when opportunities are being given, etc. Thus in marriage, ‘controlling a spouse’, either by the man or woman should not be mentioned at all. Marriage is a union of man and woman who should share mutual love, respect and understanding with each other. So it’s not the case that the man disciplines the woman for not getting him food on time (for minor reasons) or the woman abusing the man for not bringing money home when he should. I know families where the women are the bread winners of their homes. Their husbands understand that they are in the better position to provide so it doesn’t pose an issue in the home, especially because they understand that they are a TEAM. I believe these men are feminists too.
    Tobi your article points out the abuse of feminism so it’s a good one.

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