“Friendship is about someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” This has been my best definition of friendship overtime, because the bond of all companionship,whether marriage or friendship, is conversation . Conversation is not about proving a point, trying to show you are more knowledgeable or wise. A true conversation is having a conversation to satisfy your impulse to talk and going on a focus journey with the people you are speaking with. Proper communication brings innovations, and if friendship with people is not adding values or new ideas to you. You need to ask yourself, why are we friends? What is the essence of our friendship?
Life is short. Focus on what really matters most, you should change your priorities over time. Not everybody calling Jesus Jesus! would be recognised by Jesus at the end. “Our life is the sum total of all the decisions we make every day, and those decisions are determined by our priorities”, Myles Munroe. To become a great leader in any field of life,you must invest in people and in return they invest in you. _Success without a successor is failure._ If your friends do not hunger alongside you to be a success, talk to them!. If there’s no changes, you need to move on with people who are ready for the next level. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success or failure. And the sooner you realize that, you will do everything in your best to make the right decisions in every unwanted friendship.
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Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do nothing to tarnish yourself. We don’t just talk with others but learn from them. Friendship should help push us out of our comfort zones while still providing a safe emotional space for us to be totally ourselves.
Friendship is very essential to our mental health. Spending time with positive friends actually makes us healthy because we are happier when we choose to spend time with happy people. A friend should boost your career, improve your life and lifestyle all round and not destroy it.Having strong friendships can help provide networking and mentoring opportunities for career development and advancement.
Reflecting about friendship is reflecting about who we are, who we want to be and what we want in our lives. The more we show our friends to people and talk about them,who we are and what we want to be begins to reflect. If you realize that a particular relationship doesn’t reflect your values, its okay to say goodbye. We are often afraid to let go of friendship maybe because of the past memories shared, the thought that they may be useful in the future, or how it looks to others when we have fewer friends.
Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.