Your exes: Forget about your exes, and everything that they did whether you liked it or not. Your new partner or date is not going to be exactly like them, and that will be both good and bad. Accept this as quickly as possible and be ready for something fun and completely new.
Be absolutely prepared to be patient and wait for the right person to come along to spend the rest of your life with. This won’t happen right away, but most people find the persons when they least expect.
Nobody at all wants to be with an intensely negative person, and for this fact, you need to be as positive and upbeat as possible. Being ready for a relationship means that you are ready for everything else that comes with it.
If you are embarrassed or self-conscious of your looks, then do everything you can to change them first. A person with low self-esteem based on looks isn’t ready for a relationship, and you don’t want to go changing right away, if that person likes the way you look.
Another area to check is your job. What about my job? You may ask. After all, I need a good job to keep a woman, that is, if you are a man with a very demanding job. If this is you, you need to think it through because no sooner or later, you will have to create time for your partner. If not, he/she will start complaining and that might affect your relationship, but if you are simply trying to get a foot in the door of a possible career, then you are not ready for a relationship because only a few can understand your situation without making a big deal out of it.
Do an intense self-evaluation before giving complete approval to the idea of being ready for a relationship. Take a good hard look at yourself and pay attention to your habits because your significant other will tell you about them soon enough, and that will only make you angry.
Remember what it is from previous relationships that doomed your chances of a long-term situation, from both sides. What are the habits that you have that turned him/her off and what are his/her that you could not stand. Now the question that comes to mind is: are you ready to change because the chances are that it might come up again, so are you ready to deal with it now or later?
Please remember that regardless of if you agree or not, there is another person at play in your decision of if you are ready for a relationship. That other person should be respected and treated as good as you want to be. Don’t doom this relationship and others by disrespecting your other half.
Furthermore, financial independence must be put into consideration; everyone should have some financial freedom before going into a relationship because if you don’t have something doing, you won’t be happy, even if you date, fall in love and get married. Why you may ask, the truth of the matter is that you will have nothing to offer to the relationship, and you will drain your spouse/ partner completely dry. Inevitably, you will be putting extraordinary expectations on the other person to fulfill you, complete you and also make you happy. A regular source of income must be put into consideration. This is not being materialistic. It is reality. Money has caused a lot of problem in relationships, therefore, it is wise for you to at least have a source of income.
Finally, as you reflect on the above tips, note that when you rush into dating, you might miss the opportunity to develop solid friendship and really get to know the person because being friends first allows you to start identifying core characteristics of the person you want to go out with. You never know he/she might just be the one you will have to spend the rest of your life with.