While yes, it’s important to dress in a way that you feel comfortable, it’s also essential that you listen to your girlfriend. Call me controlling, say that I should love my boyfriend no matter what he wears, but I can tell you one thing: I might love him a little bit less if he continues to wear a few items of clothing in particular. Superficial as that may sound, I’m the one who has to see him all the time and be seen with him, so as a girl who definitely has a fully-fledged interest in clothes, mark my words: listen to your girlfriend.
“When a woman wears men’s clothing, or clothes that are similar to male apparel, she often thinks of herself —and is thought of — as both sexy and more feminine. The men attracted to her are aroused less by the shape or style of her clothing than by the implications her choice of clothing suggests: She is willing to be unconventional, and is more rebellious than repressed.”
Although most of us make color an important consideration in choosing the clothes we wear, most psychiatrists believe that color preferences are based on cultural patterns and individual experiences rather than an emotional quality intrinsic to each color. “The color our first boyfriend said we looked best in may have far greater impact on our color preferences than any purely sensory reaction,” Dr. Whisnant
If our selection of clothes can reveal both a conscious and unconscious array of our psyche’s innermost feelings, it seems clear that the old adage “clothes make the man (or woman)” should be turned around. We create the image, send out the message, attract or repel — make the self known — through the clothes we wear and how we wear them. And beyond this, the woman or man who shines through the clothes is probably the one who knows best how to put it all together.
THE NEW YORK TIMES