I randomly stumbled on a piece – on a website called babe.net – during one of my Internet forages, and the whole point of it was to say that happiness in a relationship can only be achieved and sustained if you have a lil something on the side.

In other words, it’s in every woman’s very best interest to keep every last one of their relationships open and get yourself a side piece.

Sure, because the writer of the piece is of a western orientation, that may sound absurd, outrageous and so far out-of-context for it to be applicable, or for it to even be breathed by any logical person in the Nigerian society.

What if she has been cheating and you find out

But it’s actually not that unimaginable, because not too long ago, a certain relationship expert known as Joro Olumofin had advised women to get a side-guy to insulate them from the unspoken hurt of being suddenly dumped by their partner.

In a post published on his Instagram sometime in 2018, the self-acclaimed love doctor, claimed that it was time for every lady to have a contingency boyfriend, a backup boyfriend for when [or if] their boyfriends dump them.

What this means is that he believes it is wise for women in relationships to have side guys to whom they can be married in “6 months” if their real boyfriends messes up.Though the chances are low, partners can move beyond cheating to have a happier relationship afterwards.

The man says his advice is influenced by the number of heartbreaks he has seen among women dumped by their boyfriends. He says that if a woman keeps a side guy during her relationship, she won’t feel so much heartache as she would have someone to fall back on.

Obviously, having a sideguy will be blatant cheating. Whether he’s a sideguy in the real sense of the word, that is, one who performs all boyfriend’s duties including sex, or one “who fits all your criteria of a husband material but is your platonic friend,” it is cheating.

If you’re hiding the whole of him from your boyfriend, it is wrong. If you introduce him to your man but hide your true intent for him from your man, it is still cheating.

When you choose to have a sideguy, either as a cushion for any potential dumping by your boyfriend, as revenge for your man’s cheating or for any other reason whatsoever, it is wrong.

By: Ogboi Chukwuma

Firstly, I made an observation, it appears we have more female population than men in Nigeria.

I don’t know if I am correct, but all I know if from observation, most folks have girls of late, including me.

And I am correct, even from the old testament, you had men who married more than one woman, not women who married more than one man.
From my observation, ladies fight over men than men fight over ladies.

And plus I am not saying this to offend the sensitivity of ladies, I am just saying what I have observed.

There are many women looking for husbands. As a matter of fact, it seems husbands are scarce!
And I think we need to look at this critically.

If we have 20 babies born at once and 13 are ladies, this means 7 ladies will be able to marry 7 men, who will the remaining 6 marry?
Doesn’t this seem to give credence to polygamy?
In fact, I have seen reports from women organizations who encourage many ladies to marry one man and live in unity, rather than be single and be sad.

Please forgive me ahead, because we’ll be doing some scripture references, with all due respect to every other denominations, I just want to establish some basics, okay? Okay! Thank you.

Fundamentally, God’s work of creation has no imperfection.

In the beginning, God made the human race, MALE AND FEMALE!

Not one male, two females.
Or two females, One male!
This wasn’t just a coincidence! It actually reveals the purpose of God in that creation!

Adam had no partner, and God didn’t create many women for him, just so he could have a full house of partners.

He created just One!
That’s the perfection of that creation!

Matthew 19:4-5 KJV
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, [5] And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

In the beginning, God created no POLYGAMY, HE NEVER INSPIRED IT!

Again, I make bold to tell you if God desired more women in the population, He would have created so many at once!

Mark 10:6-9 KJV
But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. [7] For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; [8] And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. [9] What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

The purpose of God in marriage (One man, One woman) would be a joke if God made an imbalance gender population from the beginning.

The realities are clear.

As a matter of fact, Adam was married to Eve for 930 years!

Adam had sex with one woman for almost a millennium, even in a fallen state!

If only we investigated the beginning, we would know everything the world has become was not everything GOD PLANNED AT ALL!

Watch this!
Genesis 6:19-22 KJV
And of every living thing of all flesh, two of every sort shalt thou bring into the ark, to keep them alive with thee; they shall be male and female. [20] Of fowls after their kind, and of cattle after their kind, of every creeping thing of the earth after his kind, two of every sort shall come unto thee, to keep them alive. [21] And take thou unto thee of all food that is eaten, and thou shalt gather it to thee; and it shall
be for food for thee, and for them. [22] Thus did Noah; according to all that God commanded him, so did he.

So God wants to REPOPULATE THE EARTH but look at His recommendation for even animals!


How much more Man!
Of course, we know at Genesis 6, things had gone south in the earth because of sin and death, however, God’s will remains!

I make bold to tell you that whatever makes us have more men than women or what women than men is NOT GOD!

God makes no mistakes with His creation. It would make no sense to defend MONOGAMY as God’s will yet claim God is responsible for Gender inequality!

Now, you can ask many questions like
What about those who don’t want to marry? Would God had forced them to marry just to have a marriage system He desired?

My answer is you cannot say exactly what God wanted outside THE BEGINNING!!

Genesis 1:31 KJV
And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth days.
It was VERY GOOD!!
That’s God’s verdict on His creation in the Beginning!
This is very important!
So biology can say all they want!

There was once a man who lived 930years and dude didn’t even have a surgery one day.

No medical check-ups!
The earth used to be a very good place to live before satan came in, allowed by Adam and messed it all up.
So this population inequality was not inspired by God!