This is how your girlfriend wants you to dress


While yes, it’s important to dress in a way that you feel comfortable, it’s also essential that you listen to your girlfriend. Call me controlling, say that I should love my boyfriend no matter what he wears, but I can tell you one thing: I might love him a little bit less if he continues to wear a few items of clothing in particular. Superficial as that may sound, I’m the one who has to see him all the time and be seen with him, so as a girl who definitely has a fully-fledged interest in clothes, mark my words: listen to your girlfriend.

The signs that she wants you to up your style game should be fairly obvious, but are not limited to the following: ‘subtly’ eyeing up another guy in the same restaurant you’re sitting in and then commenting on his style; always pointing at something she’s seen on the Daily Mail website and talking about how good George Clooney looks when he wears his shirt like that/that type of shoe/that style of trouser; or making a ‘joke’ out of something you’re wearing in a ‘loveable way’.

Working for the type of company I do, and covering the type of subjects that I do, I get a lot of my girlfriends coming to me with this very conundrum, asking me if I can talk to their boyfriends because their tactics haven’t been working. And most of the time, it’s either their tactics aren’t that great, or their boyfriends just aren’t getting the hint. So, gentlemen, I’ll save you the misfortune of having someone think that you dress terribly – because this is how she really wants you to dress:

For work

For a date

On the weekend


Love is your greatest asset, fear is your greatest liability, and joy is your greatest reward. In every relationship there is always a room for fear, this is because you are not sure what you can actually do under intense pressure or what the future holds. Rejoice in love, when you can but if there’s no joy in what you call love, think about it, till you are sure of your actual feelings. The moment love is a liability to you, fear of uncertainty sets in and the rewards are heartbreaks, debt, failure and sadness.

For every liability you have, you are somebody else’s asset. Nobody can treat you like a liability without your approval. “A good relationship is not a burden to be endured, but an asset for greatness”, Dahunsi Joel. You are an asset to be desired, preserved and celebrated (not vice versa) in whatever relationship you find yourself.

Liability is not just about finances , every working relationships has demands financially, emotionally,mentally and spiritually. You should invest in all ramifications but it should be both parties, since love can’t be measured. Your investments in your relationship mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially and the most valuable resources like time and energy which is put in a relationship shouldn’t be measured.

What you do, is what you get. It is quite theoretical as long as true love is the foundation of your relationship, you don’t need rules from theory but create your own rules and regulations in the practical world. A good relationship is not about happiness 24 /7, it means you stay real in love even when the ups and downs in a relationship comes up.

The signs of being with a liability is always there to see,but we mostly ignore ourselves. From the beginning you can trace the signs, What actually led you into the relationship? Make sure it’s not just the looks,appearance or what you heard about people. Nobody looks like what they really are on the inside. People are much more complicated than that. Just because someone’s pretty doesn’t mean she’s decent or vice versa. Personally, I’m not into appearances. I like flaws, I think they are what make things and people interesting.

Authenticity is everything and a valid relationship should be authentic. You have to wake up every day and look in the mirror, and be proud of the person you are in a relationship with. You can only do that if you’re being honest with yourself and being a person of high character. You have an opportunity every single day to write that story of your life and your relationship story determines a larger percentage of your life story if not all. Relationship is not a place to miss it, it is better while you miss before anything serious is involved to avoid regret and taking wrong actions.

[Read: Priorities in Friendship]

The society today, is sacrificing love and values for the pursuit of materialistic gains. If materialistic knowledge is power, it is not wisdom. It is a blind force. A blind force that makes the present dominant in our thoughts,forgetting that the future holds a greater force. “The fact remains that the materialistic view is a truncated view of reality”, Stephen C. Meyer. Materialistic gains will bring some excitement to you, if that’s the reason you go into a relationship, it would never bring you happiness that lasts forever. We are too involved in materialistic things, which ends up not satisfying us.The good relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted. Take for instance, we met yesterday and you are already asking me if I can pay your rent. Definitely, I should be planning on building five houses for you before anything serious will happen. Don’t get me wrong, materialistic gains are not just money, it is preoccupied with material possessions rather than with intellectual or spiritual things.

We should endeavour to live our lives by not letting our minds to be ruled or guided by materialistic elements. We are shallow because we have become enslaved by gross materialism, the glitter of gold and its equivalents, for which reason we think that only the material goods of this earth can satisfy us and we must therefore grab as much as can while we are able to. Individually, people are finding that a simpler lifestyle provides greater satisfaction than relentless pursuit of materialism.

Therefore, to avoid or prevent engaging ourselves with individuals that will not add values to our lives, through their selfish interest for worldly things, we must be extremely careful in every relationship we find ourselves.



Look at the picture above. What do you see? A young man and an old man, right? Well, this is what old age can do to a man. Old age is one of the stages of human life that is most dreaded. This is because, as one grows older, the body system becomes weaker, susceptible to diseases, and its ability to build new cells begin to decrease. In some people, the youthful shine of their skin vanishes and they begin to develop diseases associated with old age. By virtue of this, people who are approaching old age or those who are old often despair about how they can keep fit in their old age. On the back of this, how then can one keep fit in old age?
This cannot be overemphasized. Why? This is because as people age, they tend to think that they have passed the age that can be affected by the ills of old age. However, truth be told, if you continue to smoke or drink into old age, a n untimely death is very likely. This is because, as we age, the livers become weaker and they cannot support a lot of alcohol anymore thereby making an old alcoholic susceptible to liver diseases. So also, a smoker who is likely to die of lungs issues. Therefore, it is advisable to stop as this will make one have a better and healthier old age
As we age, our energy levels drop and our stamina begins to reduce. This is why it is very important that anyone who wants to keep fit in old age has to exercise frequently to keep energy levels up. You could start with a few rounds of walk each day. Once comfortable, you can then try light jogging or cycling. By so doing, your agility levels will be increased and it will prevent the likelihood of contracting diseases associated with old age.
In truth, calorie intake gives you a lot of energy. However, by the time one ages, there is a likelihood that one is retired by then and the same amount of energy needed when one was in active service will not be the same needed for old age when one is less active. By virtue of this, it is important to cut down on one’s calories intake as old age approaches in order to prevent the likelihood of heart diseases caused by putting pressure on the heart
In old age, it is a matter of compulsion to go for regular checkups as it can help your doctor detect anything that is wrong with you so it can be nipped in the bud immediately, to prevent life threatening diseases in old age

One of the biggest enemies of good health is stress. That is why it is important to avoid it as much as possible as one approaches old age. It is advisable to stay connected with people your own age so that you can reminisce on your younger times. You could also connect with interesting people and go for walks together. Ensure that you continue doing the things that you love doing or anything that can let you let out your emotions the right way so that you do not get stressed.
Above all, make sure you do everything to live a hitch-free and healthy life in your old age.

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July 2020